Deciding to buy a gift for a new girlfriend is an unenviable task, to say the least. It’s kind of like online gambling. You can land the big jackpot, or you can alternatively loose it all in one big bet.
Her birthday is coming up, but you’ve only been dating a few weeks and you are overwhelmed with a feeling of dread. Is she expecting a gift? Should I get her one? How much should I spend? Should it really mean something? The questions flow around in your mind, paralysing you into inactivity.
If you find yourself in a state of indecision, here are the three rules to adhere to when buying a gift for a new girlfriend.
- Don’t give too much, too soon. You may well be tempted to purchase a huge gift for your new girlfriend as a means of making a good impression. It is important, however, that you resist this temptation. If you’ve only be dating a few weeks, be careful not to give too much, too soon. Start small; you don’t want to scare her off at such an important time in your relationship. Big gifts come later.
- It’s the thought that counts. Now that you’ve decided to purchase a small gift for your new girlfriend, it’s time to put some real thought into it. A little thought, after all, goes a long way. Think back to things you’ve done together, places you’ve been to, things you’ve talked about and any in-jokes. A small gift can be a powerful thing, if it shows thought and consideration on your part.
- If it’s big, be sure. While you shouldn’t purchase a huge, and extravagant, gift for a new girlfriend, there will come a point when the timing feels right to take the plunge. It’s imperative, in this case, to get it right. Don’t go out and spend a large amount of money on something you think she might like. Instead, intelligently probe her about things she likes and dislikes; she’s bound to mention something she’s had her eye on for a long time. Take mental notes and spend wisely; your first large gift to your girlfriend is an important moment, you need to get it right.